Letting go. For control freaks.

If there is a lesson in every life situation, then my pregnancy situation is teaching me to let go.

If you are a control freak like me, want things a certain way, have certain expectations and have high standards, you know how hard it is to let things go, and how hard it is to delegate. Sometimes it comes with lack of trust in people to do as good of a job, sometimes its pride, and sometimes there is no good reason at all.

If you’re honest with yourself, you will admit that you have a hard time letting go.

I knew that my OCD and expectations get in the way and often make it hard for me to let go, let God, or just relax and be able to enjoy life more. There is beauty in simplicity.

Do we ever loose weight how and where we want to? Is it ever in a timeframe we want? For 99% of women out there the answer is no. That’s how I feel about gaining weight during pregnancy. It’s not how I wanted it and how much I wanted to gain, but its my body making a human, you can only love it for that.

I wanted to have all the nursery items set up and done (via my DIY super powers). It’s still not finished and I can barely decide on the stroller to buy. This is the hardest one for me to let go of, and hire the right crew to do the work that needs to be done. (thanks to my husband who isn’t allowing me to do any physical diy stuff anymore)

I wanted to look and feel amazing during the entire time, I wanted to never throw up, I wanted to have this mom thing down, but you know that’s not happening. My first trimester came as a shock when nausea wasn’t a morning sickness, it was a 24/7 occurrence without the relief, comfort or ability to even move. I couldn’t wash my hair for over a month because it made it so sea sick and dizzy, thank God there are hair dressers.

Let’s not even talk about cleaning the house when you’re carrying a basket ball in front of you. Let’s just not talk about that.

(thank God for cleaning services and options we have today to get help that way)

Let’s not talk about the pregnant women who work out and have the best looking toned arms and legs until birth. Let’s not talk about that.

Letting go doesn’t mean give up.

Letting go of my own self, my expectations for perfection, often my own needs and my physical abilities did not make me weak. In fact, I think it’s empowering.

I think that a woman finds her true beauty when she is able to embrace her imperfections and love herself anyway. 

I think the world is boring if everything is cookie-cutter, laid out in a perfect pattern. AND I know for a fact, the most interesting people I have ever encountered are the ones who dared, traveled, didn’t pay attention to what others thought of them, they dreamed big and loved deep.

I want to surround myself with women who are confident regardless of their imperfections, strong, encouraging and know their value. What I learned is that women like that know how to let go and know how to empower others by delegating. In turn they are able to empower themselves to do and be the best at what they are meant to be doing.

Letting go allows you to focus on your mission, on what matters most, on developing your strength. The more things you keep in control, the more you lower the quality of the outcome.

Allow me to encourage you to let go today, free yourself from the prison of your own mind and restrictions, and focus on what really matters, on what’s really important to you.

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xoxo

 

 

 

 

Pregnant & caffeinated

Sure, you can go ahead and judge. Pregnant and still in need of caffeine! My first trimester was so rough, I could barely keep food down except bread, lost sleep, and just over all was sick all the time. Forget morning sickness in the morning, I got the worst of it at night.

One day I just couldn’t stand the smell or taste of coffee and wine. You have to know that I am a self diagnosed coffee snob, and am not afraid to admit it. This is hard!

I am so thankful for second trimester making me feel more like a human and allowing me to have food again! I am more energetic, over all I feel good on most days and I can tolerate coffee again! Whether its decaf or my indulgence of a full on cup of caffeine in the morning, its the one thing that’s making me feel like a normal human being again! And I learned that when you are pregnant, you need the things that make you feel normal!

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So I thought I’d share my list of “making me feel like a human” while pregnant.

1. Makeup 

During the first 2 months I could not wear eye liner, or any eye makeup because it would burn my eyes. If I did, it was for the hour or two that I needed to go out of the house and then I would wash my face.

Taking the time to do my makeup, even if it was less elaborate then I usually would, made me feel so much better! The temporary reminder that I am woman was needed as my body was going thru all kinds changes.

BTW, I really think that the whole pregnancy glow thing is a bunch of baloney. I would sweat so much all of the sudden that it would look like I’m constantly glowing. A lie. Not so pretty after all.

My favorite makeup look during pregnancy: 

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Keep it simple. That’s been my rule. I picked a set of colors in grey for the eye shadow, a bronzer and a foundation that I liked for this look and would create versions of it when I needed to. Because I would use the same color scheme it was easy to create and fast! Nude lipstick that matches every outfit and can be easily changed for a bold color for date night.

So keep it simple, and stick to what you know best for the time when you may not feel your best every day.

2. Caffeine vs Chocolate

Find your pleasure. This time my baby boy isn’t a fan of chocolate. I find it repulsive most of the time. Instead I take great pleasure in a tall decaf (or full on energize caffeinated one if its an early morning) Starbucks late! It does wonders for my soul, my heart and just my state of mind!

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3. Heels 

I love them. All of them. I would buy them all if I could afford them. I just love my shoes. One of my biggest fears is that I won’t be able to fit into my shoes after pregnancy, so I am taking my time wearing them now while I can.

I think  you do have to be smart about it. If I know I will be on my feet for hours at an event, I will pick a more comfortable, not so tight in my toes and lower heel (3/4 in). If I know I will be sitting down most of the time, I can indulge into the 5/6 in hight and not worry about comfort as much. One of my tricks also is wearing stockings. They tend to compress the foot in a way that keeps it from sweating and expanding too much so your feet don’t get too tight after wearing them for some time.

I always, always feel more of a woman when I am in heels. There is nothing like good shoes to boost your self esteem!

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I hope you find your minimum of 3 things that you can indulge in and feel like the powerful woman you are during your pregnancy! I think if you read the main message you can use the same principle for any time when you need to build up your womanhood.

On a side note, I am obsessed with wearing blue and with my curtains. Aren’t they so fabulous?

Dress is from Banana Republic and necklace is from a vintage shop I found a few years back.

 

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Stay fabulous mamas and mamas-to-be!

Lyubov

Baby Nixon coming soon!

 

It’s Official!

I am pregnant! If you follow me on Facebook and Instagram you would have seen our baby news announcement! We decided that Mother’s day was the perfect day to make it official!

If you haven’t noticed, I’m a little obsessed with our pup Marchesa and she has no idea what’s coming for her since the baby will take most of my attention!

I am now in my second trimester and I’m feeling much much better! I had a really hard time in the beginning, and that’s one of the reasons for my silence on the blog.. If you’ve been through it before, you know how hard your body works at this baby making thing, and morning sickness hit me pretty hard usually after noon and into late night.

This is the first grandchild for both of our parents and we are excited to be on this journey!

 

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I am SO excited to be doing gender reveal next week! So make sure you check out my Gender Reveal Giveaway!!

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I’ll be working on some tips to stay beautiful thru pregnancy changes, especially during the summer months!

xoxo

 

 

Paris in November

We all dream of a trip to Paris don’t we? Especially since meeting my husband we have been dreaming of going together. He is fluent in French, and has been to the country almost 20 times. Yes, be jealous, I am. I knew France would be a big part of our life because of my husband’s love for the country (I’m not complaining), our mutual love for french wine, and my love for french Baroque decor.

Here are some highlights from our trip and my theory on traveling in general!

Traveling Details & Tips

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  • We live a couple of hours away from New York, so we drove there to save money on an extra flight, it was a little crazy because we had just flown in from a week in Colorado at midnight the night before. I picked an over night flight so we got to Paris in the morning and had the entire day to explore after getting a quick nap in.
  • Favorite things: braids and or a hat when traveling make it easier to look chic even when you’re tired. Loose fitted shirt in case airplane makes you bloat or not feel so good. Simple makeup with bold eye liner, mascara, and a favorite lipstick. Retouch is easy when you land and you can still look glam!

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  • On the plane: bring water, snacks that can fit into your purse – I always get hungry waiting for the plane to board, and some reading material.
  • My theory is to always bring the coat with me on the plane to save space in the luggage. I love my favorite oversized Burberry scarf on the plane. I often get cold and would rather have my coat in the overhead bin and get cozy with my scarf.
  • We flew via British airways using up some traveling points. One thing I wish we did was upgrade our seats or at least pay the extra 40 to pick our own seats, since this time we ended up all the way in the back of the plane. Lesson learned for the future.
  • After researching the luggage policy, we took 4 suitcases ( 2 carry ons and 2 large ones checked in). They were almost empty since I knew I’d be shopping and bringing stuff back! It really helped because we could bring wine and heavier items back and still fit into the weight limit. ** Key is to bring a travel scale, it saved us so much money and the embarrassing repacking in the terminal.

Hotel Stay

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  • I did a LOT of research on the hotel and where to stay, we set a budget on the hotel and since we were there for a week, it all adds up! We could not be happier with the hotel! I was there every day waking up and pinching myself!
  • You can find this hotel website here, or look it up on Expedia.com Link. We picked the Deluxe room with a view, and it was just unreal to wake up to the view of the Eiffel tower! And from the other window in the room we could see Arc de Triomphe.
  • Location was everything! We were steps away from the metro, coffee, food, the Eiffel tower, pharmacy (which we needed to visit often due to getting sick), and even some grocery story for shopping.

Here are some photos of our room, I was so in awe of our room I didn’t take pictures before we invaded with our luggage!

  • My tips – do the research and decide on what’s important to you – spend most of your money on that! Hotel stay with location and view was important to me, so I am very happy with the choice!

Food, food, food

  • I am pretty sure we ate a loaf of bread each day, baguette fresh from the bakery down the street was just about the best thing ever!
  • I can never go back to eating crepes in US, they now taste like pancakes in comparison to what I ate in Paris.
  • Experiment, have fun and try something different, I did and do not regret it! Check out my post about all my favorite food coming soon!
  • Coffee – if you love your extra large cup of coffee french pressed in the morning like I do, you may be disappointed. It was impossible to find a big mug of coffee first thing when you wake up! Parisians drink espresso shots like it’s water! So we did like Parisians do. Then we went home and bought an espresso machine for our home.

 

Experiences

  • My husband speaks fluent french, has many friends living in Paris, and it was actually his first time doing some of the touristy things because I wanted to, and it was his first time staying at a hotel in Paris since he always had a friend’s couch to crash on.
  • So we took on life in Paris for a week like we belonged there. It fit so well I wanted to stay forever! We walked the streets for hours, visited with friends, did some shopping and enjoyed some amazing views, food and deserts!
  • We planned to fly to London for a day super quick and unfortunately it didn’t work out. It was the middle of our trip and I woke up with a fever, sore throat and all the other pleasantries of being sick! Good thing my husband could visit the pharmacy real quick and get me some meds! I got thru the week getting him sick also, but we just embraced it and kept going out to do stuff pumped up on pain killers!

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The Louvre. Amazing. Take like a day to go and hang out!
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Hotel de Ville

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One of the fun things was finding a designer store with my name on it, and another one with my sister’s name.

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Hotel de Ville. Such a beautiful building, that hosts people working for the government. There is also great shopping just around the corner from this place.

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Love my hat to travel with. Saves you bad hair days. You’re welcome.

 

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Quick tip for tourists: if you want a picture of the two of you traveling look for a stranger who is old, handicapped (and can’t run away with your camera), or part of a family group; they are then less likely to take your camera or your phone and run. Especially around these famous locations there are a lot of people who speak english, and having to ask someone to take your photo is kind of a universal language. 

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xoxo

Luba

 

 

Open Concept Dining & Living room

I am excited to share with you some photos from my home!

The images you see are from the two rooms that my husband, my two dogs and I use quite often. They’re where we watch TV (mainly The Bachelor) and just unwind.

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After buying our house in October of 2014, we worked hard to transform our “fixer upper” into a home that reflected our life and style. It was important that I create a chic space for ourselves that articulated our style, while still being livable (and pet friendly).

A little about me: from a young age, I recognized how affected I was by my surroundings. The colors, the textures…. everything in my environment impacted my mood…. whether it be more at ease, up tight, soothed, etc.  While I understood that there were many things outside of my control, I knew that the atmosphere around me was something that I could manipulate; and with that, my passion for decorating and redecorating was born. My sensitivity to the world around me was my driving force to enhance my living space, starting with my own bedroom as a teen and now, my house, as a wife and homemaker.

Formal Dining & Family Room:

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When we first bought our house, it wasn’t pretty, but we could see the potential. We needed to rip out the URINE – stained carpet (yuck) and replace it with new, vinyl flooring. This was an inexpensive alternative to new hardwood, and it turned out to match the existing hardwood in the neighboring rooms (kitchen and formal living room) quite well. 

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As for the color palate, I went for cool tones: gray and white, as my base and built off of that with teal. The purple/metallic chevron dining room wallpaper was a way for me to incorporate a new color into the space. The openness of the rooms allowed for pulling colors and textures between them, making it one large cohesive space.

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Disclaimer: I love wallpaper. I know many people are afraid of it but, as an accent, it is my BFF. In future posts, I will reveal more rooms of the house, where you will see my love affair with wallpaper literally “unfold”. I’ve probably flipped through over 100 wallpaper books since we bought the house.

I was able to find a dining table and coffee table that each gave off a similar rustic vibe.  With that, I added faux fur and metallics to add richness and interest to the room. I am such a sucker for fur throws and shiny things- – they both will stop me in my tracks.  Needless to say, it’s difficult for me to make it out of Homegoods empty handed (sorry, husband!).

The Living Room

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I contemplated retiling the fireplace because it looked so dated, but decided to paint it white, which helped to freshen up the whole room. So easy. And I love changing the mantle décor with each season.  Make it lush, and it is a great focal point for any room.  

 

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And I love changing the mantle décor with each season.  Make it lush and it is a great focal point for any room.

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Adding a full drape of greenery, flowers and ribbon is an easy way to add a beautiful, seasonal touch to any room. This doesn’t have to be something you do ONLY at Christmas time! In fact, I change mine with every season. It is especially easy to do if you keep the base (the greenery) the same. Simply remove/replace the stemmed flowers, or whatever decorations you want to use. What’s great about this project is that you don’t have to limit your mantle to just flowers. Add candles, string lights, or anything else that might complement your space.
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I’ve had such fun adding new layers to these rooms, and I never feel as though my work is done! With that, I look forward to revealing more rooms and new projects from my house!

 

Paint color: Pinch of Spice from Benjamin Moore

Dining room furniture is from Target

Coffee table from Amazon.com

All candles are battery operated from Michaels

If you enjoyed this post, and want to see more home décor ideas (and my puppies), follow me on Instagram @twitterlesstessa ! 

 

Thanks for reading,

Tessa

 

p.s. Give her some love my friends, do you love this makeover? Luba.

Spring Makeup Collection “into the garden”

I am obsessed with this new Makeup Collection and I believe every lady should have one!

 

Full Video Tutorial:

 

 

Products List:

Eye brow Pencil

 Concealer in Ivory 2 shade 

Concealer brush 

Translucent Powder 

Into The Garden Makeup Palette Collection 

My brush set Kit 

Gel eye liner 

Ultimate Mascara 

Cheek color duo with highlighting powder 

Bronzing Powder 

Lip Liner 

Half Moon Smokey Eye

I love makeup, no question about it!

When I teach makeup tricks to ladies I see in my work, they often ask for simple makeup that can be versatile and can be used in different ways to create soft makeup looks! Mary Kay has the perfect solution! I love this palette because it looks good on every skin tone, shade and everyone’s complexion! You can also customize these shades to any eye shape!

Don’t you jus LOVE this adorable little compact called BARE Palette!?

Click here to get your own Bare palette 

and scroll down for details on getting a sweet discount deal

 

 

Products used:

(if you love any of the makeup I used, you can pick it up on my website! As long as you don’t already have a Mary Kay beauty consultant! Use Promocode: YOUTUBE to get 15% off your order, you must register to get the discount.)

Eye Brow Pencil in Brunette 

Concealer Ivory 2

Bare Makeup Palette

Gel Eye liner 

Ultimate Mascara in black 

Highlighter in Pearl 

Cheek color – substitute, as it’s not available online anymore

Perfect Nude Pink lipstick Posh Pink 

2nd option lipstick color – Pink Passion  lipstick and Pink luster lipgloss 

I am using all the brushes from the Mary Kay brush collection!

 

I hope you found some helpful tips to do your own makeup every day and find ways to feel better about yourself! Comment below and let me know what you loved the most!

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xoxo

 

 

Everyday Easy Glam Makeup

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Thank you for stopping by to check out the details of this makeup tutorial! I am so excited to share it with everyone! If you know me, you would know that I tend to do my elaborate makeup every single day! Some ladies tell me that they just don’t have time to do make up like that daily, or it costs too much, or it’s just not them….

Here is the cool thing about makeup, ITS NOT PERMANENT. So experiment, have fun and wear what makes you feel your own best!

I am so excited about this makeup palette from Mary Kay because I think its so amazing and you can have 30 different looks from it for every single day of the week! This look is simple and VERY easy to recreate! I will include all the links to the products below, but the entire look is under $100 (which most of the makeup you would re-use every day and it will last you for months and months!!!!)

But first, there is Marchesa.

She is my best animal friend and as soon as she hears my camera shutter on, she’s by my side no matter what part of the house she’s in. Meet my puppy (yes, she’s still a pup)!

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VIDEO TUTORIAL:

ALL the makeup I’m using:

Bare Palette – it has 6 eye shadows and it comes in a compact with a mirror.

Gel Eye liner in Black – comes with a brush to apply

Waterproof Mascara in Black

Cheek color in Ripe watermelon – comes with highlight

MK Bronzing Powder

True Dimension Lipstick in First Blush OR

True Dimension Lipstick in Sassy Fuchsia

 

I often choose my makeup based on what I want to wear that day, or sometimes I pick my clothes out based on the kind of makeup I want to wear on my eyes, sometimes it gets very specific and my look is all created from a lipstick shade, down to my shoes!

 

THANK YOU for watching the video, I hope you found some helpful ideas and inspirations on how to do your own makeup!

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Bombshell Blue Makeup Tutorial

Check out this makeup tutorial for the adventurous spirit, a hot date or a night out on the town with the girlfriends!

No animals were hurt in this video or while I was filming, and all the makeup I’m using is from Mary Kay cosmetics, and the company does not test on animals.

To get the makeup you see in the video go to my website: My Makeup stash website!! and just type in the name of the product in the search box. Or contact me directly, I will personally deliver it!

Feel free to use the tips in this video and create the look with the colors you are personally comfortable with! Most of all, stay beautiful and push yourself just a little more with a new makeup routine that makes you feel better about your look!

 

Makeup used in the video:

  1. Moisturizer, foundation primer, liquid foundation and concealer under the eyes. I use a similar routine every day so this time you don’t see my foundation routine here.
  2. Brows: this time I’m using Mary Kay Brow Pencil in Brunette and Mary Kay Brow Gel .
  3. I am using an Eye Primer before the shadows go on. That’s important in this look  to have the eye shadows stay on vibrant.
  4. Mk Eye liner in black, which goes over the top of the lid before the eye shadow to create a darker look, since Im not using an eye liner after at the end.
  5. Eye shadows: Crystalline, Stone, Peacock blue.
  6. At the end, (this is optional) I’m using an MK Pencil in Deep brown under the eye filling in bottom lashes. I wanted a softer look on the bottom and using a warmer tone helps.
  7. Mascara: because I want this look to stay on for a long night out I am using MK Waterproof Mascara in Black.
  8. Cheek colors: I love products that can do 2 functions for 1 product! So I’m using MK Ripe watermelon cheek duo, there is a highlighter and a cheek color. Then finishing the look with MK Bronzing powder.
  9. Lips: I love using a clear lip liner because it does the job and it can work with any lipstick and lip gloss! I also added Sun blossoms Lip Gloss, my favorite part is that it’s not sticky and doesn’t have any sparkles, just gloss!
  10. Finishing spray and setting powder. This is all for the extra strength stay on power! I personally prefer the setting finishing spray because it keeps my skin moisturized and keeps my makeup on longer.

I hope you enjoyed this makeover and found some helpful tips on what you can do to your own makeup to make it more fun, bold and make you feel more beautiful!!

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Sunroom Makeover

I love sitting down with a cup of coffee for some quiet time in the morning in one of the most peaceful rooms inside our home. Colors speak. I really believe it! Colors portray moods, feelings and transfer those feeling over to us. I always loved the idea of a sunroom for some relaxing time and when we moved into this house I barely used this space because the color of the walls made me feel anxious and just stressed out.

Here is the BEFORE when we first walked through the house before buying it:

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AFTER: putting our own touches and furniture in

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AFTER: the final product of what my vision was for the room!

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I love the view into the yard and when the sun rays hit the room in the morning its really beautiful! I am now looking forward to spring with all the blooming and leaves coming back! I also have dedicated a garden space right when you walk out of this room, and I’m looking forward to seeing my vegetables grow in the summer!

My Color Theory:

Once we knew this house would be ours I started doing crazy amounts of research to find out what colors mean, what color scheme I’d want to incorporate, and how I would want to decorate this house to make it our home. So my recommendation is to take time to do the research, do swatches of different colors and find the shades you really want! For this room I wanted to have a color that was light, would look gentle yellow during the morning and day, and during the night would turn into a subtle green. Mission accomplished.
p.s. I picked a color first that was too green. It ended up being too dark and just didn’t become alive during the morning light hitting it. So once I started painting (late at night close to when Home Depot was closing) I realized the shade wouldn’t work for me. I went to the store, with about 5 minutes to closing and a tight time frame I made the fastest decision in picking out color! Thanks to the lady who was helping me the color turned out perfect and now I don’t feel like I have to repaint!

The process:

  1. Prep the walls. First of all, after moving into a new space, wash all the walls and ceiling. Seriously this is the most important part that you can’t afford to miss. Take a bucket of warm water, an old towel you won’t use anymore with some dishwasher soap, if the walls are extra filthy. Cover the wholes and cracks with paint caulk and speckle to have all the smooth surfaces to paint. Sand down the walls where it is needed.
  2. Paint all the windows, the trim, the baseboard, the door – basically everything white.  I don’t like using tape if I don’t have to, so I’m doing all the white first, then cutting in around the white with the color of the walls.
  3. Paint the wall color. Take your time to make it smooth and even.
  4. Put the furniture back in! Start with the biggest pieces and move in everything else in the progression of size. After furniture is in take time to sit there and decide on what decor pieces you want to bring in. We put 3 different rugs into this room before decided to stick with the one there now. It’s ok to change your mind.

Enjoy the space you create for yourself!

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One of the big changes that took a lot of time was painting the ceiling and the beams. The room is not big, and the ceiling is lower then the rest of the house, so having the beams painted in a dark brown (the same color as I used to paint the fireplace mantle) makes the room look longer and just adds dimension. I also painted the painting in the back; it’s a rooster and a world map in one 3D painting. There is a lot of meaning in it and I made it for my husband. 

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